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勇敢的去爱吧，免得错过彼此就很可惜了

对,我相信"日久见人心"这句话

谢谢,你的"加油"让我很有动力.

刚开始的时候我居然可以为了自己的狗狗放弃他,

那时候的自己一点牺牲都不愿意做

都说这样会幸福,有人疼你,为你付出.

但是始终觉得世界上Z幸福的事情是你喜欢的人他也刚好喜欢你,因为爱是双方的.

去年的我就有为爱义无返顾的勇气.

但是折腾了一年,我耗费了全部却一无所有,现在总是怕受伤.

他不抽烟,不沾酒精.

还在美国.

第一次来中国的时候天天跟我在一起呢.呵呵~~~

谢谢MM把自己的经验和我分享.

我觉得我肯定还是会回武汉的,他也表示愿意跟我一起来武汉发展.但是现阶段肯定是那边的发展对我们的将来有利些,他有不错的工作(TI),有2辆车和带游泳池的房子,还有一些投资.

他说他准备为我投资一个卖中国东西的店,然后我过去就交给我经营和管理,这样我们又都可以有自己的事业.

但是他现在来中国的话一切都要重头开始,他不会中文,武汉他能从事的工作很有限.

我准备先过去考察和了解一下他的家庭和他的朋友再做打算.

呵呵~~谢谢你的支持哦.

我不会消失的.

1.是不是30岁以后才会有婚姻?­

absofuckinglutely I'll marry you! :p I would hate for your family to feel like you're not taken care of. I really want to talk to you about it more, before we move on anything; but I planned on that happening at some point anyway ­

毫无疑问的我会娶你.想起你家里人觉得你没有被照顾好我就很郁闷.我真的想再进一步好好跟你谈谈这件事,我希望是阶段性的进行.­

To be honest, the idea of marriage used to scare me completely. When my ex girlfriend would talk about getting married, I would stop the conversation, or get irritated by it. Whenever you talked about marriage with me, it just made me smile. It was surprised me when I felt myself just being happy about thinking of you as my bride, instead of not wanting to be married. This made me realize how much I love you even more, I have never felt ok with thinking I would marry someone. Oh and as for your comment about me ending my single life for marriage. I ended my single life about 2 years ago when I started talking to you, because I felt you were someone I wanted to be with. I am not single, and as long as I have your love, I will always be yours. ­

说实话,以前结婚是我害怕谈论的话题.以前的女朋友每次跟我谈到婚姻我就会马上结束对话或者转移话题,但当你跟我谈论这个话题时我是微笑的.我自己都被自己吓了一跳,当我想着我的新娘是你的时候我是开心的,而不是害怕.这让我自己意识到我比自己想象中的还要爱你.另外,你说的婚姻是结束单身的说法,我觉得我的单身生活早在2年前我刚开始跟你聊天的时候就已经结束了.我觉得你就是那个我想找的人.只要我拥有你的爱,我就不是单身,我永远都是你的.­

Honey, you are my happiness, and I want to spend the rest of my days with you. I spend every minute of the waking day thinking of you, I would like to spend that time holding you and being by your side as well. Honey, I know I've told you before, but you are my everything. I couldn't, and wouldn't want to, imagine a life without you. I love you dear, with all my heart.­

亲爱的,你是我的幸福,我希望能和你共渡余生.我每天每分钟都在想念你,我想在你身边抱紧你.亲爱的,我知道我告诉过你--你是我的一切,我不能也不敢想象生命中没有了你.我全心的爱着你.­

2.远距离恋爱很难长久.

I know there's distance between us now, it's only physically though. You are with me in my thoughts all day, and when I lay down to sleep, you're all I think about. Even if you aren't here, you need to know that I am yours. I can tell that you are mine, and I love it. When I go to bed, I often log onto my msn to see if you're there, when I get up in the morning, I have to stop myself from send you an SMS just to get one back. It makes me smile every time I get something from you.

我知道现在我们之间现在是远距离恋爱,但这只是地理上的,你天天都在我的心里,在我准备睡觉的时候我也是想的你.即使你不在这里我也知道我是你的,你也是我的,我很喜欢这样的感觉.当我睡觉之前我总是登陆MSN去看你是否在线,当我早上醒来的时候我要控制自己给你发短信,因为我希望得到你的回复.每当我等到你的回复我都会笑得很开心.

I will keep you as my girfriend, and lover, and anything else you will be for me. I don't care if it's hard for us right now because of our distance, I know that we will both decide on something together, and soon will be able to be with each other I have always told you that you are the one I want to be with. I don't care if I need to work hard for it to work, because I think our relationship is well worht it.

我会把你当作我的女朋友,我的情人还有其它可能的角色.我不介意我们现在因为距离远而要面队的困难.我知道我们会一起决定做某事,而后我们会很快在一起.我总跟你说你是我想陪伴的人.我不介意我要很努力地去争取,因为我相信我们的感情值得我这样做.

Honestly I am thankful for the internet, if we didn't have it, we would have not been able to keep in contact as closely as we have been. It makes it so much easier to be able to know that you're there. I'm happy to put everything on hold if possible when you call, it's so nice just to hear your voice, and to be able to hear you smile over the phone. I love that I make you so happy I can hear it through the phone, I love how I can shut my eyes when I talk with you and see your face. honey you make me very happy!I know that using the internet to talk with you is only going to be for a short while until we can be with eachother for real.

说实话,现在我很感谢互联网.如果没有它我们不可能像现在这样紧密联系.它让我可以知道你的消息.我很乐意在你来电的时候放下手中的一切事情,即使只能听见你的声音我也很开心还有你的笑声.我也很高兴自己能让你开心.我喜欢在跟你通电话的时候闭上眼睛,我可以看见你的脸庞.亲爱的,你真的让我觉得很开心.我相信用互联网来聊天对我们来说只是短暂的,只是我们在现实中团聚的一个过度.

I'm here, in real life, waiting for you my heart is safely stored with a girl in china

在这里,在现实生活中,我在等着你,我的心很安全的保存在我的中国女孩那.

3:如果我不愿意离开中国,你会不会为我留在这里?

I'm sure your mother would try to persuade me to stay, just like you want me to As for me staying with you, I never said I wouldn't live in China. I just want you to come see my home as well before we make a decision. Honestly I had never thought about living in China before I came to see you, but after I had been there and had you in my arms, I've considered it. I even had a lot of friends who were afraid I would never come back from my vacation :p I don't think living in one place or another will be a problem for us at all, as long as we're together

我知道你妈妈很想说服我留下,你也是.说到让我留下来,我从来没有说过我不会定居中国.我只想在我们做决定之前你来我家看看.说实话,在我没有去中国见你之前我从来没有想过定居中国,但是当我来到这里,抱着你的时候我开始考虑了.甚至有些朋友怕我来了中国之后再也不愿意回去了.我不认为在哪里定居是我们之间的一个问题,只要我们能在一起就足够了.

4.关于金钱

As for the money, Sweetheart, I am not rich. I am better off than a lot of people, but not rich by any means. Even though I don't think I'm rich, I'm more than willing to give what I have to help the woman I love. I think money is another integral part of a relationship.It's obvious I am willing to give you anything and everything。I have enough money in the bank to be very comfortable, and enough to share with you and be debt free as well. I have just learned to manage my money in a way that I can lead a happy and comfortable life. I will be able to live an even more comfortable life. I want you to be a part of that life

关于金钱,亲爱的.我不是一个有钱人.我比一些人生活得好,但不是富有的人.虽然我不认为自己是有钱人,但我非常愿意付出我拥有的一切去帮助我爱的女人.我觉得金钱是一个关系中另一个很重要的部分.毫无疑问,我愿意给你我的一切.我有足够的银行存款,足够的钱与你共同支配,并且我没有负债.我还刚学了理财知识,它能够帮我管理好金钱让我的生活更快乐和舒适.如果你能成为我生活的一部分,我的生活将会更滋润.

On my salary I'm going to be able to purchase a house on my own, have my cars, and still be able to fly to China, I think that's plenty enough money :p Aside from that I'm still making more and more every year, so there's no need to worry.

我的工资可以买自己的房子,拥有2辆车,还能够去中国旅行.我觉得足够了.另外,我的工资每年都还在增长,所以不需要为金钱担心.

I want you to KNOW you're secure, not just feel secure honey; and I know I can provide you that, not just provide the feeling.

我希望你知道你很安全,不仅仅是有安全.我知道我能提供你那些,不仅仅只是感觉上,也是物质上的安全.

Honey, I believe as long as we're together we can accomplish anything we'd like!

亲爱的,我相信只要我们在一起,我们能创造我们想要的一切.

5.我过去的发展问题

I didn't mean to give you so many things to think about, I just think you would love to be able to stay with me, and I would love to be able to stay with you as well. Besides, going to school here would benefit you greatly, and you would be able to do better with your future endeavors. Not only would you have experience from a US college, but you would be able to be with me, and I would love to do a business with you! I just want everything to go well for you sweetheart, you bring so much joy and happiness to my life, I only want to do everything I can to bring the same to yours

我并不是想给你很多问题去思考,我只是觉得你会很愿意,跟我在一起.我也希望你能留下来.另外,在这里读书是对你Z有利的选择.不仅让你有在美国留学的经历,也能让我们在一起相处. 我也愿意帮你做生意.我希望你的一些都往Z好的方向发展.你给我的生活带来了如此多的快乐,我希望我也能为你做点什么让你快乐.

I've even looked at different jobs for you here There are a bunch of jobs, even locally, for Mandarin translators. it should be very easy for you to get a job like that. That and there's plenty other things you could do here, including that shop I told you about my friend would like to start. I'm sure if we could find products for the shop, he would be more than happy to let you manage it In fact I would push that if it goes through. We'll take care of my baby

我也为你在这里留意了一些不同的工作.这里有很多的工作,我们当地就有普通话翻译的工作.这样的工作机会应该很容易获得.这里还有很多其他的事情你可以做,包括我跟你提过的我的一个朋友想开的店.我相信我们找到了适合的产品,他很乐意把这个店交给你打理. 我会尽快去落实的,我们都会很好照顾我的宝贝的.

Honey, I don't think you need to apologize for asking serious questions, I tell you I love you everyday. That's about as serious as one can get

亲爱的,我不认为你要因为问我这样严肃的问题而道歉.我天天跟你说我爱你,这同样是个严肃的问题.

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6.我告诉他2个人相处不是有爱就够了,我怕和他的生活喜欢不一样,对相处没有信心

It seems odd to me that he would say that two people can't live together on love alone. I don't know of any other reason that would bring two people to wanting to live with eachother in the first place. If two people love eachother, like we do, then they will fight through every obsticle to be able to be with eachother. Which seems exactly what we're doing now. We're only now coming to the obsticles of friends, family, distance, and lifestyles; but I truly believe our love will prevail!

我觉得这样的观点很奇怪.除了爱情我想不出别的理由让2个人Z初想要住在一起. 如果2个人深爱着对方,像我们这样,他们会克服一切困难去在一起.这也正是我们现在在努力做的事情.我们现在的阻力来自朋友,家庭,距离和生活方式,但我完全相信爱情是至上的.

it's impossible to have everything in common with someone. I believe we have enough things in common with each other that this won't be an issue。I enjoy all kinds of music, even some of the music you love. I know you like some of the music I love as well I enjoyed walking around the city with you and shopping, and seeing the temples together! I enjoyed singing karaoke (although I wished there were more songs I knew :P hehe) and loved hanging out with your friends! Even when we went to the theater, you chose a movie I would have been happy seeing, even in Chinese! I love all types of movies, so that wont be a problem either. Although you've told me you don't think you like to do some of the things I like to do, I think you ought to give them a try before you decide you don't like them I wouldn't want you to just sit at home, I'd love to have you come enjoy activities with me, and I would love to enjoy activities with you as well!!

不可能2个人的所有爱好是完全一样的.我不认为我们各自的生活方式是我们之间的问题,我觉得我们有足够的共同点.我喜欢很多种类的因为,包括一些你也喜欢的.我喜欢带你到处逛逛,陪你逛街,去寺庙,去KTV(虽然我希望能有多一点我知道的歌曲),我也喜欢和你的一群朋友一起玩.当我们一起看电影的时候我也很开心,即使是中文电影.我喜欢所有类型的电影,所以这也不是什么问题.虽然你跟我说你不喜欢我喜欢的一些东西,我希望在你说你不喜欢之前先尝试一下.我不希望你仅仅是待在家里,我喜欢你能参与我的一些活动,我也很愿意参与你喜欢的一些活动.

7.我跟他说我父母分反对我去美国.哪怕是单独去旅游.

Parents of course will worry about their children leaving home, especially of you being the only child. I honestly can't wait to be able to talk with your mother. she always seemed so excited to talk to me, and I would love to be able to have a conversation with her

父母们肯定会不放心孩子离开家,尤其是你做为独生女的时候.我真的等不及想跟你母亲好好沟通.她总是很兴奋地想跟我讲话.我也很希望能跟她交谈.

I understood that you really want to make your parents happy, and I understand, and want to make them happy as well. I did tell you I never said I wouldn't live in China, I just think I have a very good job here right now, and that it's a very safe place for you to be here, and maybe to have a family I would honestly love to spend more time in China, but I don't think I could leave work for a few months to just stay there, unless something changed here for me financially. I really do want your parents to like me, and to be comfortable with you being with me. We'll do everything we can, together, to make them happy about us

我理解你想让你的父母开心,我也希望这样.我告诉过你我没有说过不会定居中国,我只是觉得我现在有个还不错的工作,这里也是个很安全的地方,说不定我会在这里建立家庭.我很愿意多待中国一段时间,但是我不认为我现在的工作允许我能够离开几个月去待在中国.我真的希望你的父母能喜欢我,会放心你跟我在一起.我们会做我们能做的一切去让你父母为我们的交往而开心.

I really hope I'm able to speak Chinese with you and your family the next time I see them. I think that will show them how much effort I'm putting forth to our relationship Once I'm able to actually talk with your parents, I honestly believe they'll come to like me very much I have been very well cultured while growing up; and have had wonderful opportunities of experiencing things many people would go a lifetime without experiencing. I really want them to know I am a good man, and I have the ability to help provide a good life for their daughter. There are many difficulties we will face, honey, this is just another hurdle we need to get over together

我真的希望下次我见你父母时能用中文和他们对话.我觉得那样会像他们证明我为我们的感情做了很大的努力.我相信一旦我能用中文和你父母交流,他们一定会很喜欢我.虽然我有纹身,但我是个很有教养的人.我有很多机会去体验生活,那是有些人一辈子都体验不到的经历.我真的希望他们能知道我是个好男人,我有能力照顾好他们的女儿,给她好的生活.我们要经历很多的困难,亲爱的,这仅仅是另一个我们要共度的难关.

8.我们之间的沟通

I love that fact that you can tell me everything as blunt and as honest as possible, and that is a wonderful thing to be able to do.I know that if anything does ever come up, we'll be able to talk about it openly so it doesn't build up, and get it out of the way. Love works so much better when you love your partner more than you love yourself, and I do. I would do anything for you, and I know you would do anything for me.（他还谈到了换位思考-- If you would be ok with it, then you should feel comfortable doing it. If not, then maybe you shouldn't.）

我很开始我们之间能以诚相待.能做到这样是件很开心的事情.我知道如果有什么问题出现,我们会很坦诚地不遮掩的去讨论,一起把问题解决.爱情可以更顺利的进行,如果你爱对方比爱你自己还多的话.我就是爱你超过爱自己.我会为你做任何事情,我知道你也会同样做.(他还谈到了换位思考--如果你觉得站在我的角度你正在做的事情也是OK的,那么你就会做得很开心.如果不是,那么你就不应该做下去.)

有这样深情且相当理智成熟的男友

LZ，你涌了吧！！

绝对会幸福的

嫁中国人 嫁外国人 婚姻没有种族区别和差异。

只不过你的内心是不愿意接受孤独的事实 ，抵抗孤立无援的情绪。考虑在那相处的好不好 ，会不会受欺负 ，可能说明你并没有了解他的本性他的生活 ，目前在一起说不好听是为了充实生活，而不是走向生活。你可以利用这个机会去那边读书啊 不仅仅对自己的学识和技能的提高 也是一种走出去的生活体验，书是读不完的。但是在那边可以边读书边了解他和他的家人。如果实在不适应 就当自己是留学生 熬几年就回来了么 又可以有了新的生活新的起点 。如果他真的爱你 应该能接受你的顾虑 如果你真的爱他 也不要逼他来这里 因为他来这里也有着与你相同的情绪。爱可以是无私的 ，但人必有自私之时，不要因为自私而错过了自己的幸福。也不要因为无私伤害了自己的生活 。

貌似我讲的都是屁话 有感而发有感而发

眼神好凶悍.!

额··看完你的中英互译 觉得你的朋友是一个理智的人 他不会再没有任何基础和承诺的同时 仅仅凭借爱情的感性 去挑战爱情的生活现实。况且他并没有强迫和坚定的让你留在美国 似乎他只想更多的让你融入他的生活他的圈子 分享他的成长？仅凭文字中的感觉 他会对你负责 起码比现在生活的大多数男人更加真男人。 咱也矛盾啊··我一直都见不得中国女人嫁外国汉 感觉有失国威啊··哈哈 不过 你还是去吧 去看看外面的世界撒··记得常上得意

O M G

真是我学会英语的好机会啊~~~~

我除了很认真的看你们的对话

还很认真的在学习语法~~~

过来人啊……

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从我的职业认知来看，觉得美国人都喜欢超前消费，而且观念根深蒂固，首先从财富的认识上LZ和美国男友会产生强大的分歧，而且美国人大多数都不会理财，手中的资产都是固定的资产，钱一般都购买基金或者股票等投资领域！！！观念和文化背景是你们Z大的障碍！

仅仅是个人观点····仅供参考！！！